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ARE YOU READY TO FIND CLARITY OVER YOUR CALLING AND GET EXTREME FOCUS ON WHAT YOU WERE CREATED TO DO? It’s time to Clarify Your Calling!

JOIN ME IN A FREE WORKSHOP WHERE WE GO THROUGH THE 4-TIERS OF BRAND CREATION TO FIND YOUR ‘THING’!

WHEN YOU KNOW WHERE YOU’RE GOING, YOU CAN GET THERE FASTER!

“THIS IS THE WAY, WALK IN IT…”

ISAIAH 30:21

IF YOU’VE BEEN STRUGGLING WITH STARTING FROM SCRATCH AND CAN’T SEEM TO FIND ANSWERS ON YOUR OWN – THIS IS IS THE WORKSHOP FOR YOU.

STEF’S MENTORSHIP, TRAINING, GOD-LED FOUNDATIONS +++ ADD IN A TIGHT-KNIT COMMUNITY OF OTHER WOMEN JUST LIKE YOU WHO WILL BE SUPPORTING, ENCOURAGING, AND PUSHING YOU TO SHOW UP IN A BIG WAY FOR YOUR DREAMS.

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FULL EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION:

(00:01)
This is going to be so much fun. What’s up everybody. Who wants to have some fun up in here? Like let’s have so much fun today, digging into clarity, work and figuring out what your thing is, and really partnering with what God wants you to receive and hear today over what his plans are for you. I’ve prayed a lot over this, this workshop and this meeting today with you guys and over each and every one of you that are here with me, your godsent.

(02:15)
So whatever comes through today, just receive it. And I pray that you find it, that it finds your heart and it finds your spirit and your soul and that you are refreshed and whatever revelations come through for you today. And that I’m so excited that God has blessed us with this time. Anyways, let’s go to it. Who is ready to learn about clarity? You’re like, I’m so here for it, Stef.

(04:14)
All right, guys, let’s do this. Welcome to day one of the workshop. So my first question is what did you want to be when you grew up? What did you guys want to be when you grew up? I want to know. I’m going to tell you a funny story. When I was younger, maybe 7 to 10. I wanted to become an author. I wanted to be an author and write a book. And my mom found a piece of paper in my early thirties. And on it, it said, why do you want to be when you grow up? And I had written down an author, but I had spelled it wrong.

(05:32)
I thought that was so funny because God’s always got jokes. And he’s like, yeah, this, you know, Stef’s going to be an author, even though she can’t spell. I’m like, okay, I’m here for it, Lord. But anyways, your childhood often leaves clues of what your calling is. We’re going to talk about what a calling even means in a little bit here, but I want you guys to identify, what did you want to be when you grew up? We can see some of those maybe clues start to come through today.

(06:04)
All right, today, we’re going to learn why clarifying your calling is a must for ultimate traction in your life. We’re going to learn how I finally clarified my own calling and how God has used it to create a ripple of change. I’ll tell my story with you guys in a little bit as well, but like clarity was not overnight. Clarity is an evolution of growth. It, clarity comes through really messy, messy, messy action. It comes through fumbling your way forward. It comes through partnering with God and exploring the word and what he has in store for you.

(06:46)
Clarity is not just something that’s going to come down like a thunderbolt and strike you and go here is the answer. Here is the answer that you’ve been looking at, praying for. It’s just not the way that it works. Sadly. So we’re then going to talk about though. Okay. Well, if it’s, if it’s an evolution, if clarity is something that we have to work towards, then how do we begin this process?

(07:10)
It all starts, I believe with a lot of inner exploration and removing all of the worldly thoughts and clutter that come in to our minds on a day-to-day basis and really getting absolute clarity over where to begin. We need a direction, right? We need it. We need a direction of where God wants us to go so that he can continue to foster that clarity. So today we’re going to be going through my four step formula for uncovering the foundations of your God crafted calling.

(07:47)
That’s right. God crafted. Now, what are you guys going to walk away with? What you’re going to walk away with is an idea of what your calling might be and where to go from there, an invitation to clarify your calling. So let me talk about that for a second, because I know that people get weird and like, Aw, Stef’s going to sell something in here.

(08:20)
Absolutely. Because some of you are going to be ready. Some of you are like, Oh my gosh, I’m ready to do this work. I’m ready to take this walk. And you’ll know if I’m your person or not. God will put that on your heart. And what I want to say to you guys is like, I don’t expect any of you to spend any money. I’m just here to bless you today. So if at the end of this workshop, you’re like that group coaching thing.

(08:42)
That’s not for me right now, or it’s financially not in the cards or whatever. Great. I’m so okay with that. And I want you to be okay with that. I want you to fully immerse yourself in this workshop with no expectation. I don’t have any expectations. I’m just like, okay, God, I’m here for it. I’m willing to be obedient and just show up today and give, okay. I don’t want to surprise anybody. There will be an invitation to my group coaching program. You don’t have to take it. You’ll know. I promise you. You will know if it’s for you. So I just wanted to let you guys know.

(09:13)
Next step, let’s get started. I want to first discuss this concept of like operating in your calling. So why are we often not operating in our calling? What I think is interesting is that most of the women that I work with, you know, the hundreds of coaching clients and the people that are in PPU and the women that go on to Podcast to Profit, until they get to the PPU stage, the podcasting stage, they’re not even operating in their calling.

(09:48)
They’re operating in what the world has said that they are okay. We are often operating in what we went to school for, because we didn’t really know what to, who knows what to pick when you’re 19? And you’re like, let me get into college. And I am forced to pick this, um, major and do this thing. I mean, you guys, it’s really hard to know what your thing is when you’re that age. So we pick something and then we’re like, well, I guess we’re stuck here.

(10:20)
Then the world tells us, you are only worth that degree. You can only do whatever it is that your parents said you should do. You are way too stable financially to leave that job and chase after some pipe dream, that doesn’t really make sense that you have no idea how it’s going to make you money. Let me tell you guys something, ladies, when you start to operate in your calling work, it often isn’t profitable. Okay? Like, when God said start a podcast and I went from network marketing, and I’m going to talk about my story in a sec.

(10:56)
But like when I went from thing to thing to thing, the calling was the most confusing piece of it all because I’m like, but God, how does that make money? And like, you know, sista’s got some bills up in here. And God’s like, daughter, trust me. We have, you have to remember that money comes from God anyway. So when we say yes to that obedience of what he wants in our lives, he will provide. And he always does. And he is so good. He is so fruitful.

(11:22)
But this is why we often are not operating in our calling. How many of you are doing something right now that you do not think is your calling, the direction of your calling? I want to hear if you’re so willing, if you’re willing to be brave and you’re willing to say, um, that you’re unsure if you’re operating your calling, I want to hear that. Now, let me share a verse with you guys that I think will really resonate with you “for I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

(12:00)
This is from Jeremiah 29:11. What I love so much about this verse is, that God’s plans for you then started before you were even here, right? His plans for you, you have been so beautifully and carefully made and orchestrated from birth with all of these. Interweavings of all the beautiful, incredible giftings that he has, that only he can give you. And they’re here right inside of your heart.

(12:31)
When we’re born, we’re destined for these gifts. The plans are already in place, the road and the bricks, they’re laid, but we get in the way. The world gets in the way other people’s thoughts and ideologies for your life and whatever else gets in the way. Sometimes we lose track of what that calling might be. Actually, I think we all do. Okay. So the good news, the good news us that you’ve been led right here today to talk about this and to start to open the doors, to begin taking the steps towards the calling that God has for you.

(13:12)
And here’s what he promises us. Scripture is alive. This is what God promises us, that he is not, he’s not going to harm us. He has plans to give us hope and a future, plans to prosper you. So when we begin walking in the plans he has for us, we’re not going to suffer. Yes, it’s hard, but we’re not going to suffer. You’re not going to never make money at your calling because when we’re doing the work that God has in store for us, we prosper.

(13:41)
I will share with you guys now what happened for me? As we set out to do the things right here on planet earth, we keep switching, we keep trying new things. We keep setting out to do something different because we have this feeling of unfulfillment. Do any of you have this like, underlying feeling that maybe something’s missing?You’re a little bit unfulfilled. So you stop, and you’re like, I’ll leave the job.

(14:17)
I’ll go get a new job. I’ll go to corporate. Let me try this thing over here. Or maybe, you know, you start a different network marketing company. Cause it must be the company or it must be the thing. Like you’re constantly searching because it just doesn’t quite feel right. But instead of praying, we turn to, maybe I just need more money. I need a bigger salary. I need to change of pace. I don’t like Felicia, you know, Felicia in the cubicle and 21, and like she’s got attitude.

(14:48)
You’re like, I gotta get out of here. This is toxic. Look, I have so been there. So going from corporate, I went from this small financial firm and I’m like, Ooh, I don’t like it here. I don’t like it here. It’s the people. It’s these guys that run the office and they don’t, they don’t value me. I worked so hard and they don’t see me. So I left and I went to a big corporation and in the big corporation, I worked my butt off and I climbed that corporate ladder. Ladies.

(15:17)
I climbed it. I was really successful by all the worldly standards, and yet I still felt unfulfilled. And I decided that, Oh, it must be the people who work here, it must be that, the line of work, it’s gotta be something something’s wrong with this picture. So I started to hate that job. Then the company shut down and I was like, okay, well what can I do from home?

(15:43)
Cause we were ready to have kids. So I got into network marketing and network marketing started to feel more, right? So here’s the cool thing. As you begin to, you know, walk in life and you start and you try and you do new things, it will leave clues until you get in the exact positioning that God has for you. You’re really open and you’re really surrendering to that. Well, I was not surrendering to any of that.

(16:09)
I was in full control at this point, late twenties, I got into network marketing, but it felt more in alignment. I loved leading women. I loved sales and marketing and online, and I loved all of that stuff. I was thriving in some of those areas that were eventually positioned for me in my calling work, but I didn’t know it. Here’s the crazy creepy little thing is that the enemy loves to use some of our giftings against us when we’re not operating in alignment with what God wants.

(16:41)
So the enemy kind of put more and more in front of me to allow success, to become an idol. And just all of the things you guys have heard my story, right? Like I allowed success and money and rank to become an idol in my life. And it wrecked me because what does the enemy want? To steal, kill and destroy? And yes he does. And we cannot let him do it. No sir, not today, Satan.

(17:07)
So God stepped in. Thank goodness. And my business crumbled. Now you might be thinking like, well, how is that a good thing? Your business crumbled? My business crumbled so that I would be at rock bottom so that I could find my worthiness and my purpose again, through him, which I did, which I started to journal over. What do you want me to be? Who do you want me to become? God? And it was this moment of like pure surrender.

(17:35)
And I was in church one day and the worship music was just coming through and I had this moment of pure surrender. And at that moment, Holy Spirit just fully washed through. It was like I was completely baptized in the spirit. And at that moment I decided there must be a different and a new calling on my life. I didn’t know what it was, but I said, I’m here for it.

(17:57)
God use me, use my voice, use my feet, use my heart, use my spirit. I’m here for you. I want to partner with you and whatever it is that you have for me. And I was willing, that was the very first step was I was willing to walk in what God had for me. So I begin to feel this sense of fulfillment, which is so interesting because I wasn’t making any money. None. Not let’s get that straight.

(18:25)
If you guys have heard my story, you know, there was a point where I had to borrow money from my son Miles’ savings account to pay the bills. We sold my husband’s Harley Davidson at one point. And it was rough. It was a rough year. That was my Brittany Spears year. If you guys have heard me say that, you know where she shaved her head and she, she hits the car with the bat and she’s like losing it. Like that was my year.

(18:47)
But at the same time, when everything seems to be falling apart, God’s restoring me. And he’s beginning to lay the foundations for where I’m sitting right now. Now, why am I sharing all of this with you? I am sharing this with you because when we’re operating in our calling, it doesn’t always feel good. Okay. Let me share one of the verses that God showed me for my year.

(19:14)
God’s got jokes. You know what I’m saying? It’s Hebrews 12:11, “All discipline for the moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful yet to those who have been trained by it afterwards, it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness.” So I was being disciplined. God is so good. I had to be disciplined in order to be willing to steward what he had for me in order for me to be willing to steward all of you, the clients that he’s given me, the provision and the favor that he’s given me.

(19:48)
I wouldn’t have been able to steward that for kingdom good three and a half years ago, four years ago, five years ago, whatever that was. I wasn’t ready. So sometimes as you’re being prepared for your calling to break free and for you to have like, Oh, that’s what it is. I see it. I feel it I’m going to operate in it. There’s some discipline that has to take place.

(20:13)
So I’m sharing that with you guys because my road to clarity was not overnight, and yours will not be either, but I hope that today we can begin this journey together. How do you feel? How do you feel about what your currently doing? Do you feel like you’re in alignment with your God-led God crafted calling? Does it feel God-centered?

(20:55)
Let me tell you, keep digging into it. Don’t give up on what you’re discovering. I was telling my friend Tracy Wren, I was telling her this morning, I’m like, girl, it’s like, we’re playing a God version of clue. You know? It’s like, I’m playing this God version of clue. And God’s like, it’s so fun. It’s like, here’s the envelope and here’s your little, the little wrench.

(21:51)
And here’s the little thing. And like, but instead of like discovering who did the murder, you’re discovering like your greatest calling, like your heavenly book that he has for you. And you’re like, I’m getting there, I’m getting there. I’m getting there. So like keep digging into that. It’s so fun. Let’s dig into some tactical. So now I’ve really talked to you guys a lot about like what clarity is.

(22:13)
And I think I’ve probably, I think that you guys believe me that, um, you have a calling, right? You believe that you have one, and then I’ve talked to you guys about the fact that it is not overnight, that you’re going to have an evolution of seeking. So I think you’re with me, you’ve kind of heard my story and how it ultimately led me to here, but it was very messy, muddled.

(22:35)
Until I surrendered in it, I wasn’t ready. I wasn’t disciplined and obedient enough to receive that divine intervention of what it was. Now it’s becoming, even now, it’s still becoming more. There’s more and there’s more and there’s more of what God wants for us. And so it’s so fun as we start to dig into all of that. But let me tell you what the secret is. Okay? The secret, the absolute secret to peacefulness in your life, to prosperity, and to purpose is beginning to walk towards and seek after your calling.

(23:12)
That’s what it is. The reason I was unfulfilled in all the other things that I have been doing in my life prior to literally being a clarity coach. So fun. Again, God’s got jokes, and I’m helping you guys use your voice using podcasting and then creating passive strategies with you guys that serve the world and create impact, is that it wasn’t in my calling. It wasn’t it.

(23:34)
And so it was, God was like, not quite, Daughter, not quite, Daughter. You’re getting closer. Almost their, Daughter. Yeah. Yeah. Trust me. Trust me. The money’s not here. Do you trust me yet? Do you trust me yet? I just got a new necklace and it’s a mustard seed, right? Because we have to have faith, just faith. The size of a mustard seed will explode your entire life. We have to get out of the way. We have to uncover and clarify your calling.

(24:01)
We’re going to start doing that right here. Right now. Who’s here for it. We are not going to worry about money. I want you guys for me today. Just today. Put the money aside. Don’t worry about that. God made money. He’s going to take care of you, boo. Okay. God made money. He’s going to take care of you. It’s just a resource. I have a money episode coming up this week. You’re going to love it. You’re going to love it.

(24:24)
We’re not going to worry about the newest, best, coolest thing. Okay? No, we’re not. We’re going to lay that aside. We’re not going to worry about what Suzy or Felicia or whoever is doing because her calling is different than your calling. Here’s another thing. Even if you’re calling is similar to someone else’s right, like I have clients and friends who operate in a very similar calling space as me.

(24:52)
We’re still different. We are still different. There is enough to go around. God did not anoint you with your thing so that you can worry that you’re not equipped or that somebody else is doing the same thing as you. So what, so what if you’re fully in with what he wants for you, the way he wants for you, he’ll deliver it through you. Boom. And you don’t have to worry about anything else. We receive it.

(25:23)
So let’s begin doing some soul searching. I want you guys to understand something. God does not make extras. This is a fact, sisters. If we can accept that fact, it means that we need to accept responsibility for what we’re meant to do in the world. So I’m gonna get a little bit tough love with you real quick. We each have gifts, talents, abilities, perspective, and experiences that no one else shares. Of the billions and billions and billions of people on planet earth, no one shares the exact same story that you share.

(26:03)
Some of you have walked through pain, hardship, trauma, bankruptcy, divorce, abuse, pain, worldly pain. But let me tell you that God wastes nothing. He wants you to use the things that you have been through to bless others. And I just want you to know that you are equipped. You have whatever it takes. You have the bravery. You have the armor of God protecting you as you step up to making those things that you have walked through, transform from a test into a testimony.

(26:47)
I want you to know that it’s your responsibility to step up into the call, period. It’s your responsibility. You have to do it when it feels too vulnerable. Welcome to the vulnerability hangover. Y’all are about to have that for the rest of your life. Once you start operating in your call because it’s not comfy, okay? You’re going to have to lay down the fear of man and switch it out for the fear of God. Instead, we’re going to stop worrying about what other people think of us right here. Right now. We proclaim it.

(27:24)
We’re not here for that. We are going to have to accept that it’s foggy. You’re not going to know where you’re going. You’re not going to know the end result. Okay, Stef, but if I start operating in my calling and you help me figure it out, what does it mean? Like how, how much money will I make? What will I do with it? What will my course be? I don’t know, girl. I don’t know, but God knows. He wants you to step out in faith.

(27:55)
A faith you don’t understand, a faith unseen. That’s what it takes for him to begin to work through you. Let’s begin talking about uncovering the journey, uncovering the first step to this marathon that you’re about to embark on, which is clarity. It’s not going to be overnight. No one at the end of this workshop is going to tell me I know exactly what I was created for. I can see the end result.

(28:29)
I know where I’m going with 100% surety because we are not God, I am not God. I am literally just a vessel here today, going God, what do you want me to say? That’s it. So what I’m here to tell you guys though, is that we can begin to uncover the clues that God has left each of you inside of your walk so far here on earth. We can begin because once we begin and we begin to see a semblance of what this picture could be, we begin to get some words and revelation, some ideas.

(28:56)
Then we can take that and we can make it tactical and we can take action on it. So what we’re going to start with is skills versus passions. This is step one of the four tier situation. So from birth, you have had a unique blend of skills and passions. They have grown and evolved over time, but they are usually inherent to who you are and the way that God wired you.

(29:22)
Come with me on this visualization real quick, okay. You are 10, and you are in a school play. There’s the play at your school. You’ve got this stage. You guys are doing the play. Like, I don’t know the three little pigs. We don’t do that when we’re 10, but anyway, have fun. What are you doing? What are you you doing on that stage? Did you, did you help write the play with your teacher?

(29:52)
Are you the person behind the scenes doing the lighting? Are you you front and center? Are you the big, bad wolf? Cause you like, you love acting. You love being up on stage. Are you thinking incorrect? Are you the tree? But you’re like good job, Joe. Way to go. Like, who are you? Are you in the audience? Taking notes? Are you writing an article on how this play is going down right now? Now what are you doing?

(30:17)
Because from birth the inherent skills of who you are, are already there, the passions are already being cultivated. They’re already being called. They’re already there. So for me, I was for sure the Wolf, you know, I’m like, I’m up on the stage. I’m learning teach. I’m like learning the lines. I love to perform. I’m encouraging people. I’m like, I’m like, Oh my gosh, Mary, you forgot your lines. You forgot your line. Huff, Huff puff.

(30:46)
I’m like making sure that everybody’s got this. I’ve always been that person. I’ve always been a leader. I’ve always been someone that God has used my voice. Now I didn’t understand it until for 30 years, 32, whatever it took, but it was always being cultivated. So you guys, what were you doing when you were on that stage? Here’s what I want you guys to do. I want you to write a list for me. And this is part one of your homework for this, for today, for today’s workshop. I want you to do some discovery work with me.

(31:29)
It’s time to get your limiting beliefs out of your head and to pave the way to true clarity. So what we’re going to start with and you guys may be like, well, I’ve done this before, but you haven’t done this by partnering with what God wants for you by really digging deeper into what you’ve always had. The foundations of who you’ve always been. Here’s what I want you to do. I want you to list three to five passions you have on the left side of a piece of paper.

(32:01)
Now what are passions? Passions are the things that light you up. They’ve always lit you up. They’ve always lit you up. Examples. Like you’ve always loved cooking and food and serving and having people over and community. Like you love that stuff. Maybe you love biohacking and health and figuring out the science of the body or the mind like that would be a passion.

(32:28)
Maybe you’re passionate about Jesus. And that’s actually a full-on passion, learning scripture, understanding the heavenly realms and what he has for you in spiritual giftings. And like you love to decipher scripture. Is that a passion of yours is your family a passion? What are your passions? You all know, you know, in your heart. I want you to just pray with me real quick.

(32:51)
Let’s just pray that God delivers you guys. Some, some clarity right here in this space, over passions and skills. We’re going to let me tell you what skills are. And then we’ll say a quick prayer that he will deliver you. Some insight skills, skills in contrast to passions. Are your, tacticals, your tangible things like speaking. I love to speak. It’s so funny though because when I was getting prepared and I would begin speaking, the enemy was trying to keep me from that gifting.

(33:20)
He would, he would cover me in fear and attack me. And I would deal with spiritual warfare over, over public speaking. And I had to, I had to push through that because it was always something was there for me, but it was the fear. It was the fear and fear is not from God. Right? We know that fear does not come from God. Fear comes from the enemy. So if there’s any fears around your skills, we’re going to wash that out of here. We’re gonna wash that out girl. So let’s talk about some examples of skills. It could be writing. It could be speaking.

(33:52)
It could be teaching, leading. Skills could be mentorship skills could be any other skill, like tactical thing. Think about what you do, what your jobs typically entail. That you’re really, really, it’s easy for you. And here’s the piece that gets hard. It’s easy for you. So you’re like, is that really a skill? Is this really a passion? Yes. It really is. Just because something is easy for you does not mean it’s easy for other people. Speaking is easy for me. That’s why I know it’s a spiritual gift that God has given me because it’s not me. It’s not me.

(34:27)
I want to be able to do these things on my own. I have to partner with the strength. So let’s say a quick prayer that you get some delivery right now of your passions and your skills. God, I just pray that these women would receive a download from you from Holy spirit of what their passions and skills are that have always been there for them from birth that you just planted in their hearts and minds right now.

(34:49)
Allow it to freely flow from their mind to their heart, through their pen, onto the paper, without any worry, without any distraction, without any, anyone, any thought, any fear, any judgment, nothing comes through for them except the pure passion and the pure skills that you have for them that will lead them to clues over what their spiritual giftings and their callings are.

(35:10)
I just pray that you would anoint their pins in Jesus’ name. Amen. Okay, perfect. So I want you guys to work on that and that’s going to be part one of your homework. Anybody feeling stuck? You may not really have been able to dig into that yet. And you’re going to do it in a little bit, but let me just tell you that you may be feeling a little bit stuck. So if it is, let me explain to you.

(35:34)
If you are, it’s okay. It’s okay. This takes a lot of practice to really open up to what God has in store for you. So here’s the truth. If we are going to get unstuck, we have to be willing to look at ourselves from almost like an outside perspective. You’re not allowed to judge you. If you were meeting with your sister, let’s say that you guys have a sister and you’re sitting down to coffee and your sister is like, Oh, like, what am I good at, Stef?

(36:06)
Like, I feel like I’m not really good at anything. I feel like I’m just struggling, man. Like what, what do I, I’m not good at this. I’m not good at that. No one would buy this. And you’re looking at her like scene. You can like see the gifts that she has. They’re like obvious to you. And they’re right here for her. And yet she’s not willing to accept them. She’s like, no, no, no. That’s not for me. No, no, no. Like, I don’t think I’m qualified for that. I don’t think I can.

(36:35)
And you’re going, girl, look at your gifting. Step up into your worthiness. Step up into what your giftings are. Like claim them. Yes, you have the right to do the work and the things that aren’t even yours. They’re from God. So sometimes you have to look at yourself from an outside perspective. I know sometimes that’s hard. So we’re going to talk about the three Ps in just a second.

(37:02)
Now, if you’re afraid to look at yourself in the mirror, you have to push through that fear. You have to really tap into that inner confidence so that you can find those gifts because you are destined to be a ripple, right? You are destined. Here’s the thing. You can’t tell yourself that lie, that somebody is already doing this, or somebody is already doing that. That doesn’t belong here.

(37:25)

This work that we are doing right now is just for you. It’s just for you. It doesn’t matter what comes through. It doesn’t matter. Don’t worry about the how. Well, how does that become a business? We’re not doing that right now. We’re just seeing what God has for you. What comes through on the pen? You’re messy. You’re imperfect. I’m messy. I’m imperfect. I’m weird. You’re weird. You’re awkward. Whatever you are. That’s the way God made us all. We need to just accept all of our different, the different pieces of who we are and know that that’s on purpose. On purpose with a purpose.

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Woo. Okay. Are you guys having fun? Okay. If you’re getting stuck three P’s that you can try. Number one. Pause. I want you guys, if you’re getting stuck to just get off social media for a day. Yes, you can. Yes, you can. I want you to clear your calendar for a day, a couple of hours. I want you to protect your time so that you can really meditate on what God has in store for you on God’s word. Which then means pray. What do you do with that free time? You’ve just opened up. Pray. We look to the world for our answers, right?

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Well, what is, what is Bob doing? I wrote down that I’m so good at memory documenting. Okay. Well, if I’m so great at that thing, let’s go see what everyone else is doing in that space. That’s exactly what the enemy wants you to do, but you don’t need to do what other people are doing in that space, because you’re going to do it in your own space, in your own way, and God will deliver it to you.

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You don’t have to worry about the how. Isn’t that refreshing? Did you guys hear me? You don’t have to worry about the, how you don’t have to know the way you just say yes, I accept it. I receive it. Show me and you believe, and you have trust that he’s going to give you the steps. So you got to pray. You have to ask God for his guidance. Pray over the words that come through on your passions and your skillsets.

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Ask him to give you more, ask him to lead you to scripture. That will help you see more clearly. Ask him to bless the new direction, the new clarity that he’s gifted you. Okay. And then finally, if you’re still stuck, poll. I want you to poll the people that know you the best that are maybe some spiritual mentors in your life. Maybe some positive influences that know you the best. Maybe a teacher, a friend, maybe your spouse and ask them.

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Hey, this is a super weird question, but Stef’s making me do it. What do you think I’m good at? What do you think I’m best at? What do you think is natural for me? What are my qualities? What, what shines through, when, what do you see that shines through from me? And like, can you write them down? I don’t need you to tell me. Cause I feel a little weird, a little awkward. Just write them down and then I’ll go away with your paper. You know?

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If any of you feel weird about that, it’s okay. Because a lot often people can see the gifts in you before you can see the gifts in you. My friend, one of my best friends, Stephanie Asher, one day we were doing a kind of a off the books, coaching session. Cause she’s my best friend. I was helping her uncover her thing. She walked has walked through decades of sexual trauma and she was trying to figure out what her thing is.

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I’m like, Oh my gosh, like you’re supposed to empower these women through self-love to, you know, battle the sexual trauma that they have faced or the different traumas in their life and find the self worthiness. Oh my gosh, your Self Love with Stephanie. And we came up with like all these things. It was like downloads. I was telling her, She was like, huh, you’re a clarity coach. I was like, Oh! There’s a word for what I am. It was so funny because I was already operating in it, but I didn’t have a name for it. I didn’t know what it was, but she knew what it was.

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So sometimes that will happen. Now, next we’re going to move to defining your brand. So once you have some ideas of your passions and your skills, you to find common denominators and a theme to your niche. So sometimes we’re looking at this list and we’re like, Oh man, Stef. Like my passions are over here. Like coffee. Am I just going to say myself, coffee and Jesus and online marketing and empowering women.

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But then my skills are over here and they’re cooking or they’re speaking or they’re writing. How do these things go together? I don’t get it again. Not your thing to worry about. That’s one of the gifts I have is bringing all the little pieces together and helping you come up with a common denominator to the calling, which then becomes the brand. Okay. So here’s step two.

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What you’re going to do is you are going to take the pieces from your step one brain dump. Okay. Brain dump. That’s for my friend, Chels. Love that. Love that phrase because it’s so awkward. Passions and skills. All right. And then you are going to see if we can put them together into something that is cohesive. So in this bucket, when we start to do the clarity work, the first place I like to go is not actually about me. Well, what’s my common denominator. What’s my brand. What’s my thing. What’s my tagline. What’s my sentence.

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No the first place I like to go is who’s my person? Who is my person? How can I help my person with these passions and these skills? Even when none of it makes sense yet that will begin to put the puzzle pieces together because you’re now not making it about you. You’re making it about your person. You guys know my person’s name is Lola, right? My person’s name is Lola. You are all Lola’s every single one of you are Lola’s. I had somebody the other day email me and she was like, hi, I’m new on your email list. My name’s not Lola.

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Oh girl. Welcome to the party. Yes, it is. Your name is Lola. Lola is my avatar. Right? You guys have heard me talk about my avatar. Who is your person? Let’s talk about this. We have to know who you can serve with your passions. I don’t want you to worry about how I just want you guys to think about what have I already done in these little passion buckets and in the skill bucket that can help someone else? That’s it. We’re going to keep it very high level. Very, very, very high level.

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We’re going to start with this question. And this is part two of your homework. Who am I serving? And you may not be serving anybody yet, but just think about who could you serve? Who can you serve? Like for example, when I think of my Lola, I think, okay. Lola is struggling with what her calling is. She doesn’t understand what she’s meant to do. She’s so clouded in her brain. She can’t seem to get the clarity of where to go.

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She’s trying all the wrong things because she’s searching after the wrong answers, money, more recognition. She’s moving before she brings God into the equation. She doesn’t understand it. Anything to do with online marketing. She’s super afraid of judgment. She’s comparing herself to everybody. She never gets off social media. She’s drowning in mom guilt. Should I keep going? Does that resonate with any of you? Probably.

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Now some of you have done a lot of work and you are moving from step one of where Lola begins, which is great because Lola is an evolution, right? She’s moving, but that’s where you are when you start. Those were the problems that you guys have or you had. So then how can I solve those problems? Even if I didn’t know what I was, even if I didn’t have a title or a tagline or a brand, I could start with, okay, I can just help her dig into what she might want to do. I can ask exploratory questions.

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I can teach her about prayer and asking God to partner with her in her clarity work we can go through comparisonitis. I can talk to her about why we have to lay down social media. I can encourage her to not allow social, to become an idol. I can teach her some basics of time-blocking or productivity. These are simple, easy solutions that I can already do. Even when I don’t have absolute clarity, I can begin to make an impact, even when I’m not clear.

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Does that make sense? Are you guys with me? Okay, so this is part two of your homework that I want you to work on. So now what we’re going to do is we have to put the whole package together. This is just for fun. Obviously. I don’t expect you guys to have absolute clarity right now. I just want you to walk on this journey with me and act as if we’re just going to, to begin to dream and to see what comes through and know that again, it’s an evolution, but we can start from somewhere. Okay?

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So the other piece is where we go from the avatar is then figuring out what are the pillars of the brand. What are the different categories that we would use to solve our Lola’s problems. We then would go into the pain points and the triggers that she faces, which basically gives us our SEO. It gives us our keywords that we would use in titles of our podcasts or our blogs or whatever your thing is going to be.

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Then we back all the way up into title and tagline. It’s simply that it’s simply that. Now is it always going to be a hundred percent? No, no way. When I started this online work and I just started serving Lola, I didn’t have the Mompreneur Mastermind. I didn’t have an LLC. My website was a hot mess. I had lives on Facebook. I was super awkward. Please enjoy please. It’s right here in this group.

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If you guys go all the way back to 2016, you will laugh so hard. Great. Go to my YouTube as well, go to YouTube and scroll all the way back and be like, Oh, okay. Okay. Stef. Yeah, it’s bad. But you know what it, what it did, it gave me confidence. It gave me clarity. It led me to you. God continued to open doors, send me clients bring me provision. He’s like the flood Gates burst open once I just started operating in the first couple of couple spheres, which was my avatar and what I thought I should start with.

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What ideas are coming through for you? What are maybe some, some downloads that you guys have received? What are you thinking? What? And even if you had a direction, like what ideas are coming through, what pain points are you thinking about for your person? What do you think their number one problem is drop it in the chat. Here’s your homework for today. And then I’m gonna talk to you guys about clarify your calling group coaching program.

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Here’s your homework. What I want you guys to do is I want you to answer the things that we did today. I want you to share them in the group. Now what I want you guys to do, number one is I want you to list your passions and your skills. That’s your part one part two. I want you to list out the three questions we had for your avatar. Which was, who is it? What are their pain points? How can you start to solve their problems?

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Then finally, I just want you to journal over why you want to uncover your God led calling. I want you to cast some vision. If you were operating in your God led call, what would it feel like? What would be different inside of you? What do you think? How would your life be different? I want you to just visualize, because when we craft visions, they can become a reality. We can begin to walk in the vision.

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So those are your three steps to your homework. Post them in the group. Cause tomorrow is training. We are going to go next level. We are going to talk about what we do when we begin to get clarity, how to take action on clarity and how I have done this so that my clarity has created a very profitable business without spending a ton of time without having to do all the new, cool, shiny things. I want you guys to understand the big picture vision of where I want you to go.

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I’m going to invite all of you to take a walk with me over six months, truly six months to go from idea ish, to like my exact business model, because it’s amazing. It’s God led and it’s amazing. It’s amazing. You guys, I have an 85% profit margin and that’s not me. God did that, but he also showed me how I got there, because I want to show you guys how you get there, but you do it in your purpose.

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It’s not going to feel like work. It’s going to feel amazing. So I have three, three gifts for you guys. For those of you who want to go from called to chosen, you’re like, I’m here for this. Like, I’m ready. I need to go, to go fully in. I need to have an immersion experience in uncovering my calling. This is for me and Holy Spirit’s telling me Stef’s my person. You’ll know. I promise you you’ll know if this is for you, but at least listen, because you may know somebody that needs this.

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The first one is for my clarity seeking sisters. How many of you are like, I am still looking for clarity? This is definitely where I am. I need to dig deeper into like, what is my thing? I want to know my four tiers of brand creation and have that really, that really clear plan of where to go. I need to find out what my thing is, extreme focus so that I can begin walking in it. I am doing clarify your calling. Because God asked me to create an affordable solution where I could serve more people in getting clarity. It’s amazing. I’m so excited for it.

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So Isaiah 30:21 says, “This is the way, walk in it.” Yes. We may not have the ultimate destination. We won’t have clarity over like the ultimate destination, but we’re going to learn what is your way so that you begin to walk in it. That’s what this 30 days is all about is getting you through the four tiers of brand creation. So if you’ve been struggling with starting from scratch on your own, and you just can’t seem to get there, okay, this is the answer for you.

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We’re going to be supporting, encouraging and pushing you to show up for your dreams. Here’s the link. Clarifyyourcalling.gr8.com. If it’s on your heart, get it. So let me talk to you guys. Two verses that really. I think I just want to share with you right now “for the gifts and the calling of God are irrevocable for, he does not withdraw what he has given, nor does he change his mind about those whom he gives his grace or to whom he sends his call.” Romans 11:29.

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The gifts are irrevocable. They’re already here. Do you want them, are you ready? Are you ready? Willing to see what they are with open eyes and receive the gifts. So you can begin to operate in them, me doing this right now with you guys. This does not feel like work. It’s so much fun. It’s so authentic to who I am. I love it with every single ounce of my being. I’ve never felt that way about anything I did in the past, because I wasn’t operating in the right purpose.

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I want you to understand that it’s there for you, but you have to say yes to it. You have to say yes to it. And then you have to be willing to know the tacticals of how to get there. That’s the part I bring to the table. I can bring the tacticals to the table to help you uncover what the thing are. So we can put them together in a beautiful little package for you to begin doing the work.

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Next one. “And we know with great confidence that God who is deeply concerned about us, causes all things to work together as a plan for good, for those who love God to those who are called according to his plan and purpose.” You’re called, you’re called. This is Romans 8:28. You’re called to work together for his good. I believe that you’re not sitting here with me on accident.

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I believe that you’re here with me on purpose because we have to uncover it for your common denominator. So if 2021 is yours year, you’re like, yes, I’m doing, I’m figuring out my thing once and for all, I invite you. Here’s the link, clarifyyourcalling.gr8.com. I’m going to give you a lot of work to really go deep. We’re going to go through passion, crafter, the skill finder process. We’re going to uncover your core common denominator.

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We’re going to then clarify the call. So we’ve got to put all the little pieces together. We’re going to do avatar creation and figure out that avatar’s pain points triggers the solutions and the keywords of how we solve their problems. We’re going through messaging so that I can explain to you how you speak to your person. How do you speak to your Lola? Oh my goodness.

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This is a skill that you can learn so that you can generate more trust. We’re then going to go into your tagline and your title of your brand. Yes we are. Oh my gosh. So you ready? Let’s go, girl. Let’s do it. I want you to finally uncover your calling, get rid of this overwhelm, wondering, wishing, wishing, wanting, focusing on what everyone else is doing and begin to walking in his plans for your life. This is for you. Trust me.

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Let me be your mentor and we’ll partner with God in whatever he has for you. That clarity. Yes. I’m so excited. So what part of the clarify your calling program sounds the most exciting to you guys? What is the one piece you’re like, Oh my gosh, I can’t wait for that part. Then finally, um, the curriculum, and then I’m going to give you the two other gifts that we’re going to be, uh, finding out about tomorrow. So stay with me because if you’re like, I kind of have clarity already. I have something for you too.

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Here’s the curriculum week one, we’re going through passions and skill mapping, week two, avatar and pain points, week three, brand pillars, tagline and title. Week four service content mapping and the audience builder action plan. We’ll just have to see what God wants to do. Okay. So tomorrow, two more gifts to be revealed for those of you who have gotten clarity and you are ready for next steps, join me tomorrow.

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We’re going to be digging into exciting ways to further your brand and purpose. After you begin to get semblance on your clarity, we’re going to be going through how you build trust, how you grow an audience, and then how you add monetization strategies. This is something I call my three tier passive business blueprint. So that’s what we’re going to learn tomorrow is the three tier passive business blueprint.

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Now, if any of you are on step two, which is podcasting, that you absolutely must be here tomorrow. If any of you are on step three, ready to create your passive thing with whatever your clarity is, you must be here tomorrow. And all of you that have been on this walk with me this morning about uncovering a little bit, a little bit of semblance over your clarity picture.

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You have to be here tomorrow because what I’m going to, what I’m going to reveal to you guys is a six month plan of how you can have my exact business model. You guys want to know what my business model is? Just as the teaser, and then I’ll let you go? My business model is courses, which is 50 to 60% of my revenue. Coaching, which in the past has been a lot. We’re phasing that back this year and then this mastermind Podcast to Profit.

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I show up on social maybe an hour a day. But I don’t get on on the weekends. I don’t have tick tock or have Twitter. I don’t really care to because I show up on Instagram stories because I like it kind of, kind of. Facebook groups is where I host my stuff. I have four people helping me on my team and I work 27 hours a week give or take a little, 27 hours.

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What, and y’all God has given me provision and favor. That is beyond anything I’ve ever had in mind for my own life. God-sized dream, not Stefanie-sized dreams because he knows that I’m in a spiritual maturity to steward it well to tithe then to do goodness, to do good with it. I have no attachment to it, which is so great. It’s like God finally showed, showed me that money is just a means of exchange.

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It was like, I want to give you guys that business model who wants it, who wants it? I’m going to show you the way. So if you feel led to allow me to allow me to trust me, to help mentor you in this process, this is step one. It’s clarify your calling. Okay. Trust me on that. This is step one. So clarifyyourcalling.gr8.com.

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Now that is the end of today’s training. I’m just going to say a quick prayer over you guys and let you go. And we’re going to talk about all of that cool stuff that we’re learning tomorrow. Please don’t forget to do your homework posted in the group and tag your mentor in your homework.

So that they can help you. And then, and then, um, if you haven’t started the challenge to get points towards the scholarship, go to the Guides in the group and download all of that information for the pre-workshop challenge. Okay?

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Father, I pray over each and every woman who is in this group workshop with me right now, I just pray that you would bless them with a new sense of purpose that you would open their hearts, eyes and minds to something bigger, something more audacious than they’ve ever been willing to see before, that you would just transform the direction.

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If it’s not your direction, that you would open doors for them that are unseen and shut doors that are not for them, that you would help guide them in walking towards the path, the purpose that only you have for them, the plans that have been planted and predestined for them since birth, I pray that you would just anoint them with this purpose.

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Give them the clarity, allow that vision to flow from their hearts, to their minds, through their pen, onto the paper so that they can see what you have in store for them. We trust you and love you. We have such faith in you, right? Jesus’ name. Amen. I’ll see you guys back tomorrow.